Posted by Sigismund on May 13, 2008, at 20:55:16
In reply to Re: Sick to death of my family » widget, posted by Sigismund on May 13, 2008, at 19:24:04
Let me try to not be facetious.
In our family we had a pattern of witholding acknowledgement.
That at least was in our power.
So there were interminable attempts to set out points of view, and acknowledgement and acceptance of these different viewpoints were witheld.
If we were being kind to each other we might have said 'You might very well say that, but I couldn't possibly comment.'
But mostly it was more like 'It is a matter of supreme indifference to me what you believe.'
If you get into a pattern like that, I think it is better to accept (if you can) that you will never get what you want and to just give up, because it is so easy to avoid giving validation to someone else.
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