Posted by B2chica on May 13, 2008, at 12:20:04
In reply to Trying to find a new T, posted by myrtledog on May 13, 2008, at 11:27:52
did you ever watch M*A*S*H ??
i remember i loved frank burns and when he left i knew they were going to replace him.
but instead of trying to find someone that was sniveling ferret face like frank they went completely different and got charles emerson winchester the III.
and it was brilliant.ok windy. but my point is. this is such a new move for you it will be hard to search for one while you are still hanging on to the other because you know what you have and you want to look for THAT in the other. COMPARISON...it will be hard but you just can't do it.
you wont find it.when i had to find another after my FAV T left. i went to one but she was terrible but i needed something for a few months. finally i went without for a few months. finally i started looking again. fresh. for me that made the world of difference.
i needed to separate myself from what i had to what was real and what was out there.
what you have is great but every person is different, so even if chemistry is Great the dynamic or personality wont be the same, it just will never be the same as what you have now. So you need to see that AND accept that. the sooner you do the sooner you can be open to finding that next appropriate and great new fit just for you. you may possibly find something just as wonderful heck maybe even better if that's possible, but not without separating your potential T from your current T.
*********************so pick out points that you like about your T, both professional and personal and take out the personality. put them on paper.
you may not need or want something completely different, but maybe so.
and maybe you need to try something you wouldn't normally try, different gender, picking names out of the phone book rather than referral. etc.
these are just ideas.
if you are nervous enough no need to vere from what you are comfortable with.
after all this is your health. and you need to be comfortable before you can open up and trust right.best wishes
and keep us posted.
HTHb2c.
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