Posted by muffled on May 8, 2008, at 11:58:57
In reply to Re: Arrrrggghhhh » muffled, posted by Dinah on May 8, 2008, at 9:57:13
> I don't think the caring is turned off. She always cares, even when she's not physically present. Contact with therapists outside the office always needs to be initiated by us, but that doesn't mean they don't care.
Yeah.......arghh...see thats my 'thing', like if she cares, then presumably she'd think of me at this crucial time of leaving her, and so check her email, and so reply.....(no reply yet..)
Aw crap, bet she's GLAD to see the back of me!!!> I know that she doesn't have all the qualities and training you need in a therapist, and I'm glad you've found someone who does. But I remember your saying how much you've gotten from therapy. How much better you are at self regulation. Being consistently, even stubbornly, cared about helps us change. I know it's not all you need, but I'm glad you can appreciate that part of what she's done.
* Your BANG on with that (again!) Dinah. "stubbornly cared about". And thats it. She has NEVER bailed on me, and I can be such a jerk. She has also taught me a great deal. Just by being herself and being accepting of me despite some of my history. So yes, the relationship itself was very educational. She was good w/the CBT stuff too. Helping me challenge the false beleifs I had etc etc. So I dunno why/how I came across as negative about her??? Of course we had our stuff, we ALL do with our T's!!!
Mebbe it was just frustration I was feeling cuz I knew I would have to change, but didn't want to cuz I LIKE my old T. But your right, she has done all that she can, and done it well.> I'm trying to forget stuff with my therapist until tomorrow. I must have dreamed about him, because this morning I woke up and dialed his number to "take back" everything I'd said. Only to not leave a message because I woke up enough to remember I actually hadn't told him any of those things, at least not yet.
*Oh (((Dinah))) I can't imagine how you must feel. You have SO much more history w/your T than I do with mine. So if I am finding this hard, how much harder must it be for you right now :-(
I'm sorry you are having to go thru this.
But it sounds like you are trying to protect yourself, so thats good.
I hope your T can help you come to a descicion as to what you should do...
NOT easy.
Hang in there and keep posting.
Thanks for your support of me. Your good at putting things succinctly :-)
TGC,
M
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