Posted by Annierose on April 25, 2008, at 17:11:14
I enjoyed reading the above exchange between Dinah and Twinleaf. I completely understood what they were both conveying. Language and our physical senses are so in-tuned with the therapist so very small changes can be noticed/felt and (maybe) not spoken.
I feel close to my therapist right now. And it's not like I didn't feel close in the previous years. But the intimacy of our sessions, our sense of understanding what the other is communicating is spot on and difficult to put into words.
She said something on Thursday that made me smile and I wish I could replay the exchange in my head to get an exact quote. I was telling her about something I read in a parenting magazine --- that the teenage years help the child learn to cope with feelings of sadness, loneliness and frustration. Not that the other years aren't working on these emotions as well - but in those years - teens start pulling away from their parents more and more, making decisions on their own and with their peers.
Anyway my therapist jumped in and said something like this - "Exactly. As a teenager pulls away from their parents, they still have this wonderful reservoir of their parental love inside of them, helping them, hopefully to make good choices or to help them when they are lonely or sad. When they are away at college and they get lonely, they know inside themselves they are loved ... and that carries them through it. So what I want for you, it to feel that love, to know the truth of about yourself, that you are kind and thoughtful and smart and beautiful ... all those things your mom and dad didn't tell you ... but know it's true."
That session will carry me through. I understand the bigger picture that she was painting too. Instead of looking for external reassurances of my self worth, she wants me to trust a new truth about my being.
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