Posted by fleeting flutterby on April 23, 2008, at 13:26:01
In reply to Re: There are grownups younger than me » Phillipa, posted by Dinah on April 23, 2008, at 12:54:08
> I don't think I mean that. I see people who look like babies and are doctors. That doesn't bother me.
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> Being grownup is different than having a career. I don't know. More that it's someone I look up to and rely on, maybe? A grownup.
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> I never see myself as a grownup. Just as a nongrownup who goes to work and helps the grownups.<<Wonder if it's like how I feel-- there are people that seem so much more "together" than I. In situations --they know just what the healthy thing to do is... as I sit there trying to figure things out and seem to not have clue sometimes. (embarrassing for me) It's like I'm missing something-- something that I don't know how to get-- like there were some growing up years that -- that-- I never got to learn from, so I'm still, at times-- in the child mode.
The psychologist I saw -- he was more than 20 years older than me, it wasn't so hard taking advice from him-- but now-- my new therapist I see-- she's a year younger than I am!!! I'm taking advice and having someone help solve things with me that hasn't even lived as long as I have!!! ugh..... hard for me to not feel like a failure. :o( (I'm so thankful her compassion and understanding helps me to cope with it all)
is that kind of how you feel Dinah?
flutterby ps-- Hi Phillipa! ;o)
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