Posted by raisinb on April 23, 2008, at 8:54:03
In reply to less reassurance, posted by sunnydays on April 22, 2008, at 22:35:11
Sunnydays, it's totally understandable that you feel awful, like something has been taken away from you. And no, your T shouldn't just decide things like this without asking for your feedback and input. If you keep talking to him about it, I'm sure he'll listen and you can work through it.
However, I do understand what he is doing, and I think it's a valid goal overall. If you just depended on him for reassurance, you'd never get to the stage where you analyzed why you need it, what that says about how you feel about yourself, etc., and you'd be stuck in therapy forever, as opposed to taking what you learn in therapy out into real-life relationships.
In a way, what he's doing is an amazing compliment, because he's telling you that he's confident you're ready to move into the next stage.
I know it sucks that you can't have your caring, reassuring therapist there all the time, but if ou work with him, you can have all that stuff (with other people) and more someday.
poster:raisinb
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