Posted by raisinb on April 12, 2008, at 7:52:04
In reply to depending on your T (kinda long), posted by CareBear04 on April 11, 2008, at 19:38:49
It sounds like your T is being wonderfully supportive. Sometimes it's difficult to accept or believe in that, so I at least try to find ways that it's not real or won't be there tomorrow.
I struggle with this issue a lot. I didn't call my T once outside of a session (except for scheduling purposes) for about two years. When I did, she was so happy and encouraging about it that I was shocked. It made me rethink, a bit, how I viewed her and our relationship.
We've had many difficulties in our relationship in the past six months, and I have gone back to not calling her, even though she urges me to do it every session. I know she'd be happy that I called--intellectually. But there's a very stubborn part of me that wants to be able to get through things myself, however destructive my coping mechanisms are.
Like you, I also fear she won't know what to do if I reach out for help. It's tough to take that risk and realize the other person can't fix it immediately.
It sounds like what you're worried about, though--that you're taking up too much of his time outside sessions--isn't his perception. It sounds like he is very happy to have the chance to help you through things. If you are worried about it, the best thing to do would be to bring it up at your next session. Conversations like that can be really productive.
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