Posted by Kath on April 6, 2008, at 16:47:02
In reply to Not sure what to do....., posted by Quintal on April 4, 2008, at 16:16:00
> Anyway, I'm really nervous about initiating contact with this guy. He's my age, but that doesn't mean we'll have anything in common - I'm a pretty strange person and I'm not very sociable at the best of times. I just don't know what to say. I don't even know if he really wants to talk to me. Maybe he's just been pushed into this by his care worker like I have? It could be awkward. Still, I suppose it's less embarrassing than being forced to meet face-to-face and struggling to keep the conversation going.
Hi Quintal,
I have found that recently I will 'preface' talking about something uncomfortable by telling the person how I'm feeling.
I would strongly suggest saying all the things you mentioned about to this person. I think that this is really important.
Just think - you'd be giving them a real gift, in that you'd be letting them know what you're thinking & how you're feeling!!!!!
And those are very important things in relating with people.
This is someone you don't know. You have no need to care what they think of you either. For those reasons, I don't think you put yourself at risk of being hurt by being open!
I've also sent you a babblemail that I hope you'll read & perhaps get back to me on.
I wish good things for you. This sounds like it could be something that might help you & would be a great resource, I think.
hugs, Kath
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