Posted by rskontos on March 26, 2008, at 9:11:06
In reply to Re: My session today was great. » rskontos, posted by seldomseen on March 26, 2008, at 8:05:42
Yes, I can understand that, but you are right there should not be another person sitting across but after such a long time how can there not be. Right. I mean I would think after a time, how can your therapist not become someone you know in some sense. Probably not like you know others in your life. But you have some semblence of knowledge. And then his RL intrudes ie the paper when you learned of his father. It is hard not to acknowledge this happening in his life. The burden of therapist on the patient is only if you take it on though right?.
I try to maintain a hard stance on taking in any knowledge of my therapist. One day, I overhead my pdoc speaking to his doc. His previous patient did not close the door enough so that when Dr. S called his doc in between our appt. to ask for a prescription for what I tried hard to forget, and I have for the most part. I don't want to speculate on the knowledge for what might be going on his life. I just can't take on his issues, I still have too much to be accountable in my own. So I strive very hard to not let any of my therapist be inside our room, just me being messed up me. On the Sophie part of In Treatment Paul said something to Sophie about when an adult goes to therapy about them being able to just be themselves in the safety of the office. And then in the part of Jake/Amy, sorry I have watched ahead, there is another reference, I won't give it away. It made me realize how important it is to keep the safeness of the space.
I really understand how hard it is to get a glimpse of the person sitting across and how you might start to want to feel like you need to be wary of them. Or at least their feelings.
That is ultimately why I changed therapists. I had things I would have never discussed with my first therapist. She was always in the room. Her person, or at least the person I perceived her to be and that prevented me from going into certain things.
Let me know how it goes if you ever do talk about that person sitting across. It would be helpful to see how you resolve it if you are comfortable with sharing.
rsk
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