Posted by Dinah on March 22, 2008, at 9:07:36
In reply to Dilemmas about therapy on Monday, posted by seldomseen on March 22, 2008, at 7:46:58
I agree with Sunny about mentioning that you saw it in the paper, and offering condolences.
I doubt that he made any decisions about you personally in scheduling, or thought that clearly. My therapist took off a few weeks when his mother died. I think it had more to do with getting himself in good order than it did with anyone's issues.
For myself, while I know that he is trained to put aside his own stuff, I'm pretty sure I'd have trouble mentioning father issues for at least the first session or two back. Although, at this point in therapy I think I'd be most likely to mention my dilemma. That you realize you've been talking about father issues lately, but you feel like it might not be sensitive to do so right now. Then he can answer as he likes. Perhaps it might be that this is why he didn't tell anyone why he couldn't reschedule. Because he didn't want anyone to feel they needed to take care of him by being careful about topics. Or maybe he'll mention that it might be difficult for him, but that he will be able to handle it and that if he didn't feel ready to take on clients' issues he wouldn't have come back. (My therapist tends to be transparent enough that he'd most likely say the latter.) Or whatever might reflect his situation.
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