Posted by sassyfrancesca on March 17, 2008, at 12:22:05
In reply to Re: Please Help - I'm in So Much Pain » Idiot Girl, posted by Sigismund on March 15, 2008, at 17:31:10
I wish I had some wise advise. I fell in love with my t five years ago. I told him that I would rather be in pain WITH him, than in pain withOUT him. We have had many deep discussions about this.
Problem is, he has feelings for me, also....and he struggles with them (and takes me along for the wild ride).
Love....is love; we cannot make it disappear.....I am single (after 31 years of abuse), and being alone is excruciating for me; add that to loving someone I cannot have (he is married).....but still....I love him. We are alike in over 30 different ways; it is so amazing.
I could write a book on what has transpired between us (no, no sex); I have given him a preview of what I would like to happen between us.
I am sorry I don't have any answers; there aren't any. Feelings are facts, they aren't right or wrong, they just....are.
How much have you told him? Will he discuss it with you?
Love, Alice
P.S. I do know my t (a lot); as he said: "I bent the boundaries, and allowed you to "see" me...it would have been better if he hadn't; I would have realized my feelings were mine, and lived with it, but unfortunately, he let me know he had feelings for me also, and it is a terrible struggle to not act on my feelings...
Also...a miracle that I haven't in view of the fact he has led me on, teased me, etc., etc...we are both attending a convention in Hawaii next week.
I am sorry for your pain and misery. i certainly resonate, sweetie.
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