Posted by Daisym on March 16, 2008, at 20:31:27
In reply to Re: In Treatment, Sophie, posted by seldomseen on March 16, 2008, at 18:57:13
I wish I weren't good at picking up the "mood" of the room. Sometimes I want to go for a walk because the room still is tense from the previous client. I've just realized as I've written this that at least two of my session per week have no one before me - I'm first and then I'm after lunch - and he can't stick someone there because he is moving from one office to another. :)
Last week my therapist asked me if I thought I could tell when he has had supervision and is trying something new with me. I hesitated and then said that "yes" - I think I can tell when he is trying something new or some new way of being in the room. However, since I don't know when he elects to have supervision or talk about my case, and I don't want to know really, I would have no way of putting that together. But there are definitely times when I want to ask, "did you go to a seminar or something this weekend?" He seemed a little taken aback but acknowledged that my radar was so finely tuned that it shouldn't surprise him that I'd pick up subtle differences. I teased him about using new questions - was he asking me what his therapist asked him? He had the grace to laugh. He did reassure me that he couldn't imagine any consultant, ever, influencing him to transfer me, despite the intensity of our relationship and my attachment. He said a good consultant helps you work it out with the patient, not recommend that you cut and run. My response was that I was less worried about termination than I was about him changing his style and putting up great big boundaries.
I think it isn't that I don't want honesty from my therapist but I think some disclosures are harder to handle than others - even if you've asked for them. I keep thinking, what is Laura supposed to do now, keep trying to seduce him? And how do you go back to sitting across from each other?
Do you think this show has shaken up therapists who think that clients don't/won't put things together? Or don't run into each other?
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