Posted by Daisym on February 22, 2008, at 1:43:47
In reply to Ugh, and therapy was not good today, posted by Racer on February 22, 2008, at 0:04:38
Here is a scary, very existential exercise -- allow yourself to get really, really mad -- AT THEM. I think we (me for sure) are sometimes afraid to fully lay blame on someone else - to be completely outraged at what happened and to not own any of it - it wasn't your fault, they screwed up and there is a direct connection to how you feel now.
That doesn't mean you then throw your hands up in despair of ever feeling better. But you might find some power in the anger, and find you can take back a little of what was stolen from you. And I'd like to suggest to you what my therapist keeps suggesting to me - we don't have to "get over" what happened. Trauma is not something to be conquered by sheer will. He would like me to think about making sense out of my experiences, meaning that I have a coherent narrative that is true for me and I can make links to certain issues and behaviors. It doesn't mean I understand why any of it happened - it doesn't mean I have to forgive. And then the hope is that the past will be a piece of the puzzle that is me - and it will be sad and hurtful when I think about it, but it won't have so much power over me still. I guess this that darn working through part.
As far as depression help - sleep, lots of water and laughter. I just read a study that says we should watch funny movies and dance through at least three songs a day. Can't hurt?
Reggie is snoring next to me - he sends hugs and hopes you feel better and more settled soon.
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