Posted by LadyBug on February 17, 2008, at 23:50:10
In reply to Re: Ladybug-Update » LadyBug, posted by Dinah on February 17, 2008, at 21:22:30
Dinah
My hearts hurts more than I can say sometimes. The adoptive couple invited us to their home tonight to meet his family. They were amazing! We loved them all. There were 2 brothers, their wives, a younger sister, the parents and one other brother that couldn't be there. They told my daughter how happy they were that she chose this couple to place her baby with.Incidently, we went to dinner with them the other night and before we left they came to our home and announced that she is pregnant. It's a miracle, as her chances of becoming pregnant were very slim. My daughter and I both went into shock and it wasn't until after the dinner did we start to think about everything. Will the adoptive child feel the same as the biological child? Will he feel less than? Why would we give this baby to someone who can have their own baby? Out thoughts went on and on. My daughter had a really hard time with it for about 4 days. She had decided to keep the baby herself. I told her she would have to deal with meeting a guy someday down the road to possibly marry and he'd have to love her child as his own and it may not happen and that the adoptive couple can give her baby so much more than we can. She cried. She went to her therapist to talk things over and came home and decided to proceed with the adoption. My week has been an emotional one. I left a voice mail for my T almost everyday. It's a good thing I was able to see her the day after the couple told us of the news that she is pregnant. I cried buckets of tears. Seeing my T gave me a place to sort though my feelings. Her chance of miscarriage is high. And if she carries the baby, they will be 7 months apart. At least he has a chance of having a sibling.
Life..............I will survive.
Thanks for your concern. It means a lot. This is the hardest thing I've ever gone through. I miss this sweet little guy already and he's not even here yet. I love him with all my heart and I can only hope that the adoptive couple's joy is worth our pain. We will get to see him, we have to work that part out. And they are letting my daughter give him his middle name. I think that is cool.
LadyBug
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