Posted by Racer on February 2, 2008, at 0:18:52
In reply to Re: Male or female T? » twinleaf, posted by Maxime on February 2, 2008, at 0:00:28
I'm pretty sure that one day I'll have to switch to a male therapist, because I have so much trouble being around men. Which I guess is a good clue that I have only seen women therapists, and can't imagine seeing a man at this point.
I have enough trouble relaxing and allowing myself to be vulnerable with a woman -- I know I couldn't manage that with a man at this point.
Maybe someday.
I liked TwinLeaf's advice -- I will say, though, that the very most important part is the individual fit. Years ago, I interviewed many therapists -- had initial sessions I paid for with them, and chose the one who fit best. It was a very expensive project, but I ended up with the right therapist for me at that time. Short of doing that, I strongly recommend having a few questions to ask on the telephone before you commit to a session with anyone. I did that this time, although didn't find many therapists willing to see me at all -- one even told me I wouldn't find a therapist willing to work with me, because "no one sees adult anorexics. That's because adults with anorexia *die!*" (By the time I spoke with her, I had already gained almost fifteen pounds, but she still said that with my height/weight, I needed to be in the hospital. Grrr. Thanks, lady, for offering that hopeful picture of recovery for me...)
Best luck to you, Maxie.
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