Posted by zazenducke on February 1, 2008, at 10:49:53
In reply to Joking... (triggers) » zazenducke, posted by Daisym on February 1, 2008, at 10:30:47
> Sure, out of context that might sound inappropriate. But the way it was said, the obvious joking quality to it - the long standing history between us - made it the right thing to say. And wow - you made a big leap there - not knowing me, or my therapist that he'd want to have sex with me and that he needs supervision.
.....Er no you made a big leap there, I didn't say he'd want to have sex with you! I asked what if he made a joke about that like he made the joke about shooting someone who harmed you in an adult dating situation? How would that be didfferent? Hey if I wanted to make a big leap I would have mentioned that guns are phallic symbols wouldn't I? And he was whipping his out to go after his rival. LOL I think everyone attempting to do long term therapy should be in supervision of some sort.
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> And wanting to have sex with your therapist, particularly if you've had painful sexual abuse, is not unusual. There are times that I want him to teach me that it doesn't have to hurt. We talk about these feelings and he is super clear that this will never happen, I'm safe to want and express anything - his job is to hold the line. He has always done so and I trust him completely with that. Sometimes I'm sad and furious about that. Other times I'm relieved.
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> I don't know what your history with therapy is - or even if you have one - but I suspect you think about it very differently than I do. I'm glad there are many kinds of therapists and therapies, so we can both get what we need......No you don't know do you? I hope you do get what you need. Really.
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