Posted by Dinah on February 1, 2008, at 1:07:02
In reply to Update-It Did Not Go Well, posted by Rigby on February 1, 2008, at 0:35:32
I'm sorry it didn't go well.
I guess all I can say is that maybe this is a chance for you to not only feel settled and done yourself, but to also totally accept that she's just human and has her own imperfections. I can understand why you're angry. But I think there's a certain benefit in having the distance and perspective to shake your head and smile ruefully and admit that she's pretty much being the same her she always was. You say she has problems with boundaries? You can accept that yes, she was helpful for you and you're grateful, but that yes, she does have some issues herself.
I'm not saying this for her benefit but for your own, so that you can hopefully get back the peace you had when you left her.
poster:Dinah
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