Posted by Dinah on January 22, 2008, at 16:34:29
In reply to Re: Isolating » rskontos, posted by Poet on January 22, 2008, at 15:02:45
That was the major focus of our session today, other than my getting mad at him for wanting to work on how to make going to the office easier instead of understanding that I didn't want to make something so unpleasant easier. I wanted it to stop.
But after that we talked about earphones, and yes the noise cancelling sort, and fluorescent bulbs as one of the main culprits at workplaces with their constant hum and flickering, and the temperature and how just the temperature can cause overall agitation. My office is hot, perhaps because everyone controlling the thermostats is over sixty. Although I think we also figured out that there's a spot in my actual office (shared with one other person) where heat flowed from a lower floor directly through our carpet and into our room.
At any rate, the overall message was to look for those sources of discomfort you *can* minimize, then minimize them. (I'm not quite sure how he thinks I can tell my officemate to turn off the lights and use lamps instead.)
At any rate, you might wish to look for some of those almost subliminal sources of stimulation. Vibrations from office machinery, lights, sounds. And see if there's anything that can be done.
Not much to do about the coworker of gloom I suppose. Is there some way you can make her find talking to you about such things so uncomfortable that she seeks out someone else to catastrophize with? Answer her in such a way that she finds talking to you about it completely frustrating or unpleasant, but without actually being rude?
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