Posted by okydoky on January 20, 2008, at 12:03:31
In reply to Re: What is Helpful, posted by Daisym on January 19, 2008, at 23:53:51
'I just think after reading a lot of this board we should all keep this in mind."
I had originally posted this on the eating disorders board and have not read anything on this board yet. The post was redirected.
'Can you say more about what you mean by this? It sounds to me a little like a caution about hanging out here because we need "healthy" people as friends. I think like all things we need balance and what one person needs at the beginning, middle or end of their journey, isn't the same for another.'
It was a caution in a way but again not about this board. I used to know a lot about people with eating disorders and people who are in treatment who don't socialize outside of the treatment facilities or only with the people they interact with there. We tend to emulate those around us sick or not. So if one surrounds themselves with only a very select group they will naturally begin to act, dress, talk etc. like those around them.
I so agree wholeheartedly with what you say.
'One of the best things about this board is that it is open 24/7 and you can hear from all kinds of people with all kinds of experiences. I find it one of the few places I can think "out loud" about the experience of therapy, not just the issues that took me there. I get advice from those further along the road than I am and I can share my experiences with those a wee-bit behind me. It is great if we find the right thing to say to each other but sometimes the only thing we can do is all hurt together. But it sure beats hurting alone.'
Thank you I need this advice. I have been very depressed and not in therapy. I feel very alone.
'I can see how one might worry that all we do is feed on each other's grief and sadness. After all, misery loves company, right? But it has been my experience that when several people are down - a few others are up. And when one of us loses hope, others lend theirs. It is a continually evolving, revolving group -- a unique internet family with the same quirks, frustrations, traditions and sibling rivalry.
Babble is sometimes hard to understand, hard to defend, hard to take and hard to read. But it is impossible to leave. Just like family.'
Again thank you for the advice. I will read and perhaps interact on this board. You seem very supportive.
okydoky
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