Posted by 10derHeart on January 19, 2008, at 23:20:18
In reply to Re: Don't knw If this belongs here., posted by Phillipa on January 19, 2008, at 20:08:29
Phillipa,
You are not stupid. Having a spouse cheat on you, whether you knew about it or not, is not something *you* did. It was done to you. On man's ability to hide wrongs and successfully deceive you, hardly makes *you* the stupid one. Enough said.
Maybe you were busy, distracted, possibly raising children, trusting, loving, caring, maybe even naive (not that you were, but maybe) but even so, none of those equates to stupid.
I don't like it when people call those I care about stupid. So quit it, 'kay? ;-)
I'm so sorry you were the victim of such horrid treatment in the past by people who should have been caring for you - as a child and adult. I hope as you trust your T. more you'll be able to share some of this painful stuff. I think it could really help you feel less burdened in the here and now.
I really believe it can get better, no matter when we start the healing process (that's right, not allowed to say you're *too old!*)
((Phillipa))
poster:10derHeart
thread:807673
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