Posted by Happyflower on January 19, 2008, at 21:07:51
In reply to Re: What happened??? » Happyflower, posted by muffled on January 19, 2008, at 19:10:02
> >why should I put in my time when things don't hange to make them better. Plus now there is the threat of getting blocked for a new rule that nobody new, that is until someone gets blocked for it.
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> *What do you mean 'put in time?', you mean post?***I spend a lot of time on admin. trying for change, supporting others who wish to do the same, even getting blocked to show a point. I have only seen things get worse with the strictness of the rules.
I know you are upset by this site HF, yet you too keep returning/reading?.......just like me :-)
***I miss some of the friends here who I have been talking to for 3 years, I do care about them, and that is why it is hard to leave. But sometimes you have to weigh the options, I also get hurt too.> > Maybe it has to do with the searchablity of this site on search engines, especially since the barchive goes back years.
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> *Sigh it is SO hard to search, I wish it was easier...***When I search under Google for happyflower, 3 of my posts come up that I have made on babble on the 1st page.
> With a smaller private group, we are able to talk more in depth and personal without the worry of it being public, with out the worry of blocks too.
> *I guess we just differ here. I LIKE that its public and open. Thats how I came to be here. I think our posts HELP other people IRL as they read here. Helps them to feel less alone in their struggles.***The thing is Muffy, it isn't all in the public, there is a lot of things that happen off this site, so not all conversations is in the open.
I talk in depth and personal to my T. If its in 'public', then its for all to see, and I am OK w/that really. It is what feels 'safer' to me. But thats what makes the world go round, all us different people.
*** That is good you do that with your T but sometimes our T's can't be there for us all the time, and it is nice to talk to people about in depth things that some of don't feel comfortable talking about on a public board where thousands of people can see.
> > We work problems out ourselves, we are adults anyway.
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> *Sigh....I wish I could just talk and work out probs....but again, I do that w/T. Again, I like a broad pool to read my ideas etc and therefore more likely one of them will 'get' it, or NOT! but usu lotsa sympathy out there!***I have found I am able to be myself off the boards , so in doing so, I find others much more supportive and helpful because they don't have to risk getting blocked, they can be honest.
> And I am hoping babblers are adults!!! OMG, depending on where I am at, my language can be pretty atrocious! Sigh....now you kinda freaking me? D'ya think kids would be on babble????
***I am sure kids do read Babble, they do other mental health sites.
>I don't see how one small group would impact babble as much as what has happened with the regards of blocks and the hacker. It just isn't safe anymore to post your intimate details of your life on a public message board, especially one that keeps archives forever. I don't feel safe, and I have been hurt very much here, and some of my apologies go un- forgiven.
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> *I don't think one small group impacts babble particularly, its just impactful when its brought up as being ONLY for certain people that its hurtful/divisive.***I think the only place I have read it being brought up is in this post. Some of us feel closer to one another and have developed a friendship here, I don't see anything wrong with that if we want to continue that friendship more in depth.
I like that babble is open to all, though thats a challenge at times.
***But not everyone is accepted here though and even though babble is a public forum, there still are divisions of people.
> Yeah, we all been hurt or trigger here I think at various times. We are a sensitive bunch. I am sorry you still struggle as far as relations go :-( Maybe with time things will improve?
***I will still continue to post stuff, but not deeply personal stuff that can be used to identify me or used against me in my future. The net is a scary thing, and things you write about now, you just might not want the world to know 10 years later. If there were not old archives, it would feel safer to open up more, but knowing it will be here "forever", makes me and others uncomfortable.
> Nice to see you HF.
> Take care.
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