Posted by happyflower on January 13, 2008, at 13:05:53
In reply to Agonizing over T Relationships *trigger + rant*, posted by MissK on January 13, 2008, at 12:12:31
Miss K,
I agree with you, although I fell into that trap actually myself. I think we don't PLAN on such a strong attachment to our T's, but sometimes when there is something in our life that is missing or is missing from our past, it is hard to separate those feeling because we have never felt them before until therapy. For many of us who didn't have anyone in our childhoods that cared about us, relishes the caring we get from our T's and become attached to them. But unfortunately some T's take advantage of that .
Certain professions draw certain kinds of people to it, and sometimes it is harmful to the most vulnerable people if the T is in it for his or her ego.
I think people go into therapy for a lot of reasons and you should feel lucky you don't feel this with your T or I should say NEED is, it will make termination a lot easier. But can you see how for someone who never had someone care for them, go into therapy and receive caring for the first time on why thy might become too attached to their T's? I hope I helped some, although I felt just like you do at the beginning of my therapy and well things developed from there.
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