Posted by Daisym on January 12, 2008, at 20:37:16
In reply to Words out loud can be so hard (got long), posted by Racer on January 11, 2008, at 2:36:19
What I find amazing is how easy it is for us to dismiss or refuse to acknowledge what seems so evident to others. Your ability to knit and sew (and write) is a great example of this. You are right - I have seen your work. And I'm so envious of your ability to make stuff and then you get to wear ORIGINALS. You won't ever run into anyone wearing your outfit. (I hate it when that happens!) I'm really proud of you for acknowledging that you do this well.
I think Dinah has a point about parents glowing with pride over our accomplishments. But sometimes there is too much glow and then we are held constantly to an impossible standard. We start down playing things because the pressure is too much. I often want to say, "just because I managed to do it right this time, doesn't mean I knew what I was doing." I describe it as the "fraud syndrome." I keep waiting for people to figure out what a mess I am and how if not for luck and others, I'd have no accomplishments at all.
I'd also like to point out, very gently, that you do have the ability to mirror pride for kids. I know you've done it with different children who've been in your life and for sure you've done it with kids learning to ride. Learning self-esteem comes from lots of places, not just parents. So never underestimate the impact you've had on someone else's kid.
I'm glad things are turning around some Racer. You deserve an easier 2008.
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