Posted by lovelorn on January 1, 2008, at 11:05:07
In reply to star gets to rant and rave poss trigger, posted by star008 on December 31, 2007, at 9:08:28
Well, it's like anything if we tell ourselves often enough. If you are constantly saying you need help, then you are in a constant state of feeling helpless and needing help. I try to frame it as much as possible as I need help with x or y, and once I've gotten that with my T, then move onto the next thing I need help with. If there is only one outlet for helping ourselves (as in seeing a T), then our dependency grows on that outlet, not shrinks. 10 years is a long time. There are some that do 'forever therapy'. Have you just kind of resigned yourself that you are one of those people?
Anyway, it's not easy as we are regularly opening ourselves up and being vulnerable with our T's and that adds to a sense of neediness and needing help. Maybe at an upcoming session you can ask your T for ways and suggestions on needing him and therapy less if that is a goal you have for yourself.
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