Posted by sunnydays on December 18, 2007, at 19:52:03
In reply to Re: sad again/still, posted by rskontos on December 18, 2007, at 18:32:16
> Sunnydays, I am sorry you don't like your family so much and have to go home to them. I wish you had some place else to go. Man if I had to go to my family's house well I completely understand. I don't mind christmas cuz my family nor my husband's are coming to visit so yeah....
*** My T did remind me it's probably the last time I will be home for a long stretch of time. Thinking of it like that makes it easier to deal with.
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> I wish I could help. I am old 48 and I haven't grown up either. I have a daughter 19 and nope she is older than me. She knows herself. She I gave her the luxury of being able to focus on herself not being safe at home. So she is growing up and I have yet to do that. I told her today I didn't know myself and she was surprised. I spent my time being peacekeeper. Do you have to do that at home. How is it toxic. I wish you had a aunt or uncle or some place you could go to get away.**** I do the peacekeeper thing too, or just feel responsible for everyone's feelings, try to keep my mom happy.
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> I know your T means to help you to grow up and move toward all that mature stuff but just for christmas you need a hug or reassurance it will be ok. So here is a big babble,,,,, it will be ok. like muffled says you can use this to grow. I know it is hard.
> Go home and pretend. I am sorry I am wanting to make you feel better but this is for some reason triggering to me.**** I am going to be ok. I am feeling a little better now. You don't need to make me feel better. It's enough to know you care. ((((rsk)))), if that's ok.
> I think everyone else did a better grownup way to answer you. I just wanted you to know i care.**** Well, since it's my little kid that's sad, I don't really need a grown up answer. I like knowing you care. Thank you.
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> I have to go now. please be safe and happy and babble is here for you ok.**** I will definitely be safe. Happy I can't guarantee, but I have a whole long list of ways to take care of myself that T and I made.
sunnydays
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