Posted by lovelorn on December 18, 2007, at 19:51:13
In reply to Sounds of silence, posted by Maxime on December 18, 2007, at 19:37:26
Not overly long periods but it's happened for a few minutes. I find I am usually looking down or at a wall or picture, lost in my thoughts when this happens. My T will stay silent too and wait for me to continue. If it is getting too long she may pick up on something that I've been talking about and that leads to more discussion. It's not happened very often. She usually just waits until I speak again.
It used to feel a bit awkward in the back of my mind at first when silences happened but not anymore. She never made feel awkward about it or showed any awkwardness, which actually made me feel good and more comfortable with her. There is something kind of nice and peaceful to be able to be silent with someone and not feel any weirdness, if you know what I mean.
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