Posted by Dinah on November 24, 2007, at 0:33:52
In reply to frustrated, posted by Daisym on November 23, 2007, at 23:19:38
Well, to be honest, the holidays are a chore. :)
When we're feeling energetic and happy they might be an exciting chore, but still a chore.
And your stable source of support goes off on his own holidays, when even Dr. Bob Hartley knew that holidays were the worst time for a psychologist to be away.
Isn't it weird about sadness and anxiety? I sometimes feel like they do a little dance in my brain. One protects me from the other, and they approach and step back in almost stately synchronization. Right now they seem to be passing each other in me. Both close enough to affect me simultaneously but far enough away that it's not overwhelming. Much better than when the steps of the dance bring them side by side closer to me.
My therapist often says that the identified patient isn't usually the most screwed up in the family. But I have to think that recognizing how messed up our families are is part of gaining the detachment needed to separate and individuate from the *right* people. (That was part of my therapist's response to my diatribe about it. That it was a good thing to do that with my mother. Then he went and spoiled it by saying it *could* be a good thing to do with him as well, and didn't mean losing him. Bah.)
poster:Dinah
thread:796759
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/psycho/20071120/msgs/796778.html