Posted by star008 on November 20, 2007, at 2:11:18
Okay so I was joking with Dinah about how T's sometimes forget what you say and it was really kind of funny cuz sometimes you can use it to your advantage by not repeating it or use it again to judge their reaction a second time when they have no idea you already told them the story already. It was funny, Dinah and it is not your fault at all but I got a big trigger from it.. Never know what is safe and what isn't sometimes.
I remembered that I told my T that I had an affair with my high school teacher and got pregnant as a result. I told him about it a long, long time ago but when i brought it up he acted as if he had never heard about it before. He didn't associate with the guy but knew him since they worked for the same school system. He went back in his records and apoligized and said that I did, in fact tell him. I was and am still hurt that he didn't rememeber such a huge issue. I realize the limitations of a therapeutic relationship and accept those limitations but how could somehow "forget' such a huge thing?? I tend to think he didn't believe me and that is why he let it go. I was a senior in high school and got pregnant before graduation..While everyone was all happy graduating I was hiding this huge secret that would have put me on the front page of the newspapers..When he looked back he said that at the time I didn't want to pursue it. I was over 18 then and had a choice but how could T FORGET?????? I am just a client and I realize that but HOW??? What do I do now?? Do I bring it up or let it go?? It was so long ago but it still hurts, obviously.. I don't forget things and let them go easily..Now I am so bummed.. Laughing one moment and feeling like s... the next.. Please don't feel bad Dinah.. You couldn't know,. You made me laugh
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