Posted by Daisym on November 13, 2007, at 1:04:13
In reply to Re: Sorting out my session today » annierose, posted by Dinah on November 12, 2007, at 17:26:59
But I think the issue starts where Dinah stopped - your mom never told you you were wonderful. So you want your therapist to confirm it. Not only that, you want her to make it OK for you to think you are OK.
I think there is a certain amount of psychological health in knowing how to be yourself while at the same time meeting the social norms of certain occasions. People declare sometimes that they "don't care what other people think" - but I think they usually mean they don't want to care. And it sometimes means they don't know how to dress up, or dress down, or whatever.
I think your need for your therapist to like you comes from a different place than self-esteem. It is more about attachment needs and the need to be mirrored by a mother figure. We all need that.
I know you will keep talking about this. It sounds really important.
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