Posted by happyflower on October 31, 2007, at 21:43:16
In reply to Re: HappyFlower?, posted by Dory on October 31, 2007, at 19:54:23
I am thinking of planting some spring flowers in his memory or something like that. I am not sure what to do, I am still thinking of it. I remember as a kid he used to sneak into the garden and eat all the green onions tops, everyone knew he did it too because his breath. So maybe I could plant some Alliums, which are related to onions and maybe something special for little Lia too. Something delicate , hmmmmm, maybe pink lilly of the valleys.
I also talked to my T about our 2nd type relationship, the first one is personal therapy and the 2nd one is more of him being a mentor to me on how to be a good T (this role comes in second). He feels honored to teach me what he knows (eventually) because he has over 40 years experience. But he says he is still learning. But he is giving me the good stuff.
I sure have learned about counter-transference.I told him that I am beginning to really trust him to go deep with him into the nasty stuff. But I said it is also scary for me because I don't want to become attached to him. He said something, that he has to watch that too with clients. He said his job is to get us to be self reliant and to eventually fire him. I said most people try hard to keep from getting fired, he said well a lot of things in this profession is *ss backwards! lol His honesty is helping me so much.
But he does this other weird thing, and I think of Dinah's T when I see him doing this. Well sometimes he leans back in his chair and puts a foot up on this desk. Well at least he holds the folder over his crotch though that contains our therapy notes. But I learned today he does that to force himself to stay awake when he is especially tired. lol But now that I think of it, do I REALLY want him to hold his notes about me on his crotch? lol Then sometimes he slouches way down in his chair almost like he is lying down (with the folder of notes on his crotch) and he is tall so his legs almost reach my chair. Geeze are T's weird, I guess I will fit right in. LOL But at least my T tries to cover his crotch! lol
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