Posted by angela2 on October 16, 2007, at 9:32:52
In reply to Re: for people w/ anxiety and avoidance issues » Angela2, posted by Dory on October 15, 2007, at 15:07:17
> > My life isn't half as bad as others
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> is there a contest? some kind of quota? Who has it worse? My T says that what matters is how you feel... no contest or comparison on what made you feel that way. You don't need to be beaten, molested or abused to feel bad. Some people like to wave it around as if somehow they should get more recognition or sympathy. But why? Is it worse to hit a child? or to cut them? Does it matter in the end? A child that gets neglected may end up with as much or more damage than one who is beaten. There isn't any rule book and even if you had a completely well adjusted life... you still have as much right as anyone to feel bad. You don't need to be abused to be hurting.
> >Thanks Dory.
> >Do you feel like you click with your T?
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> i do, very much. It's hard, because i won't let him get close.. so the "click" isn't consistant.
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> >For people with anxiety and avoidance issues, does your T help you feel motivated to do things?
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> i'm not sure what you mean... ? Like regular life stuff? or do you mean exercises for therapy?what I meant was, I guess exercises in therapy. Tho she doesn't give me any exercises and I feel like she is sort of unenthusiastic.
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> i refuse to do therapy homework. Pppfffftt. So no to that. But in other stuff... well, he does a little but not directly. We haven't really gone there. But he does indirectly because i feel the desire to make him proud of me. i know that is not a good reason... that when he isn't there i would fall flat, but it's a start. Better than before.
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> i am terrible at getting things done. i keep getting told how much potential i have and i still can't get it together.
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> i think i am as afraid of success as i am of failure. Are you that way?Yeah I might be that way too Dory.
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