Posted by Dinah on October 10, 2007, at 9:31:16
In reply to Age and therapist, posted by Phillipa on October 10, 2007, at 0:17:43
I think the chemistry between a therapist and client matters more than age or sex of the therapist. I've had some adjunct therapists over the years, and also the therapists who I saw when my therapist was gone. I didn't really like any of them, male or female, older or younger, except for him.
I think in general I'd do better with male therapists, since women tend to intimidate me more, particularly if they're sophisticated and flawlessly accessorized. But of the two men I saw, other than my therapist, one was too brusque, and the other was too distant.
One woman therapist was fine over the phone, but clearly judged my appearance negatively and changed her attitude a lot in person. The others just weren't right for me.
Still, my son had a female play therapist for a while that I'd have seen gladly. And I've told my therapist that if my female well dressed and lovely neurologist was a therapist, I might well prefer to see her. She could walk in the room and instantly assess my mood, comment on it with sensitivity, draw out the reason for it, and all in ten minutes or so. Wow.
Just find someone you click with. The rest will fall in place.
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