Posted by Quintal on October 9, 2007, at 17:36:53
In reply to caring, posted by Dory on October 9, 2007, at 8:56:35
I used to worry about the same thing with my T. I think it's about feeling vulnerable among people who can see our weaknesses. Do we worry about being exploited? I think so. Can we trust this person? I suppose it depends on what we imagine their attitude and intentions towards us to be, and also on our attitude and intentions towards them, and they're not mutually exclusive. The way I see it, if we're open about it, the process can be an exchange of information, you explain the problem, and the T gives you the information you need to solve the problem. To me, caring means T won't exploit me, they'll help me solve the problem. There are clear boundaries between us, over which neither of us steps without the other's permission. There's also unconditional positive regard, which I suppose could be a bit like faith; that we commit to reaching a positive outcome, even when we have deal with distressing material.
Q
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