Posted by sunnydays on October 7, 2007, at 13:10:57
In reply to What is the silver lining of child abuse?, posted by happyflower on October 7, 2007, at 10:52:23
I could see an argument being made for strength being a silver lining of child abuse. But for me, I think the strength was always there and is just what helped me survive. I am grieving so much right now because I feel like I am smart enough and capable enough to do anything I could possibly want to, but the abuse has given me these emotional problems that it is hard to rise above. I feel like the strength could have been put to much better use for me than overcoming abuse.
Creativity, no, not for me at least. Part of the abuse was being told for me that I was bad at anything I did that was outside the rigid box of what is normal. Independence - maybe. Although this is not the independence I would wish for. I would wish for an independence rooted in a strong, supportive family to back me up if I ever need to turn to them for support. Not an independence driven by the need to cut myself off from them to avoid being hurt.
It is an interesting topic, though. I could see an argument being made for it, and I think you'll probably be able to think one up for your paper. I'm just not sure if it would ever ring true for me personally.
Good luck,
sunnydays
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