Posted by Dory on October 6, 2007, at 16:26:34
In reply to try again, posted by muffled on October 6, 2007, at 10:06:36
i'm in a state.. a mess.. you know that from chat.. freaked out.. scared
but i want to help too
you do need to talk to him and tell him why you feel this way... and it might hurt but it has been a bit of a lie.. you love him but sex scares you. It is going to hurt him to know that but to not tell him would be lying right?
He can't understand what he doesn't know.
he can't help you if he doesn't know
couple's counselling?... mostly to help him know you still love him and maybe how he can understand... and maybe be able to work through it enough that you can be close that way again someday
it is going to hurt him, and he is going to feel lied to and angry. There is no way for him not to. Men don't all think that's what it's all about, but they are taught in our part of the planet that they are not manly if something isn't right in bed... that even if love doesn't = sex, they will wonder if no sex=no love. He can't help that part. Not his fault.
it's a sticky situation.. i am sorry.. i know it's going to hurt.. i don't know how to help... i am in hell myself
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