Posted by DAisym on August 31, 2007, at 22:39:39
In reply to Re: Magic Moment - very long » DAisym, posted by Dinah on August 31, 2007, at 11:23:06
"I think of therapy as being the same way. The hard work prepares us, but the special moments, large and small, change us."
This is very wise and is true for most things. I've read that once change, or progress, in therapy starts to happen, it can happen seemingly very rapidly. But it happens on a foundation that took a long time to lay down. So quick is relative.
"I'm not sure what you described was a matter of gratification. But why is gratification necessarily bad? Even soothing and feeling good, which admittedly we could potentially begin to look for from our therapist, can if used wisely be a way of teaching us to self soothe. And this wasn't even that."
Hey - yeah! Who said gratification was bad? It is just that word - gratification, instead of meeting a need. It sounds like a giving in, instead of something beneficial. One of the things I really have come to know from this whole process is the feeling inside when I feel secure and how important that must be to young children. It has changed how I work with families.
I think that I just learned again that sharing my therapy experience needs to be done very judiciously. It is hard to understand some times, particularly for people who are CBT oriented. When I told my friend I go 4x a week he actually gasp.
And thanks for the writing encouragement too. Annie's right - you write beautifully and thoughtfully. You should write the book.
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