Posted by JoniS on August 23, 2007, at 7:33:12
In reply to ok, Falls got me to thinking.....(poss triggers), posted by muffled on August 22, 2007, at 23:51:04
Muffled,
I think meeple gave a lot of good insight.
Take a look at Dinah's last entry (8/22) above on "I think I was rude today..." Notice that she said
*** ...I'll admit that the first five years of my therapy were spent testing my therapist and seeing if he was emotionally safe. Emotional safety is not something I ever even thought possible until him. In those five years, I probably appeared worse rather than better...*
My point is just that it can take a long time to get real trust built and that could be the most beneficial component in your (our, my) growth & healing.
I know you know all this, but I believe more and more that the T-client relationship is what cures us, much more than their "expertise" with a particular method of t. As long as a T is staying w/in profesional ethics and not causing any harm there is probably growth going on that is not necessarily obvious to us in the short term. I believe that long term - trust relationships are not just beneficial but probably NECESSARY for real growth.
In other words, and just my 2 cents, it might be most beneficial if you hang in there with this T. That said, I realize this is not easy to know what to do, and we are all different.
Best of thoughts for you!
Take Care
Joni
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