Posted by Quintal on August 18, 2007, at 21:04:54
In reply to Re: Do we actually know one another at all? » LlurpsieNoodle, posted by Honore on August 18, 2007, at 15:24:17
>There may be hidden wellsprings of feeling and unknown thoughts, quiet disquiets, that everyone harbors, that could spring out one day, and surprise one, no matter how many exchanges one has had with that person.
Yup, I've learned that lesson the hard way on at least two occasions. Only by chance did I discover the depth of covert hostility someone harbored against me, and the measures they had taken against me in private.
>And yet I feel this naive confidence that things are as they seem, that those who are friendly or compassionate-seeming, are friends or are caring. I don't know--
Yes, outward friendliness and amicability may just be a smokescreen to disguise deeper feelings and motives.
>I wonder if it isn't something that leads us into being deeply hurt or put on the spot, or made to feel foolish, in ways that then come to seem our own fault, for being so gullible.
I felt a little foolish afterward. I am suspicious and paranoid by nature, and the goal of therapy is often to reduce this, to stop second-guessing others' motives and intentions. But that's hard to do after finding most of your suspicions prove correct, or worse; that your darkest suspicions fell far short of the truth.
Q
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