Posted by slugdoo on August 11, 2007, at 4:45:57
In reply to Re: I think my T was a total *ss that last day » slugdoo, posted by Tamar on August 10, 2007, at 20:32:20
> I agree. His statement was extremely insensitive. In fact, it was so insensitive that I think it needs interpreting.Thanks for the validation. ;-)
> What's going on in your work together that he needs to build up his boundaries like this?Could be many things, maybe it was because I told him he is more to me than just my therpist. Could be I told him I worry about telling him my "sh*t" inside because I don't want to put all that on him. Could be because of my reaction during EMDR, where he could see for himself that I wasn't okay, like he believed so much. He said it was an oversight. Why? Because I believe he lost his objectivity when it came to me. So I am guessing the last one mostly with the other stuff contributing.
What's he protecting himself from?
Maybe caring about and liking me more than he feels is appropropiate in the theraputic relationship.Did he feel you were getting too close to him emotionally because of your EMDR?
We didn't didn't actually get to the emdr since my reaction when we used it for my stage fright. We were going to on that dreadful day. I was really nervous about that.
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> Why can't he deal with your feelings? Doesn't he understand how important he is to you? Have you told him how much you care about him?Yes, he knows I care about him, I have told him and showed him many times. I believe he knew how important he was, and he knew I was becoming too important to him, and it freaked him out because he couldn't control his feelings. He said once, every time I see or hear a trumpet, I think of you, and I don't know why. (what? if it a shock to him that he might actually think about me out of sessions?)
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> I wish I had answers for you, but my therapist is all Dr Boundaries whenever I want to feel close to him. I don't get it. I feel like I'm in a very similar place to you.
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> Sorry I can't be more help...
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You helped me especially with the first question. Why did he have to put those big boundries in place? Well because he messed up, thats why. But that didn't work well considering how loose those boundries were, it actually backfired.
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