Posted by Tamar on August 9, 2007, at 20:50:30
In reply to I have to be honest though, posted by Dinah on August 6, 2007, at 22:07:15
> So I'm ashamed and embarrassed and don't want to go back. And the worst part is (and the best part is) that he won't even remember any of it.I don't know what was said. But I know that shame is awful... And I also know that your therapist wouldn't shame you deliberately. Or at least, he doesn't want to say or do things that cause you shame.
And I can totally identify with the idea that he won't remember any of it. But isn't therapy partly about being being able to remind him of what he has said? And to give him a chance to rephrase it, or explain what he really meant?
Dinah, there isn't a single thing about you that deserves shame. You are one of the most caring, wonderful people I've ever met (even though we've never met in person). If someone doesn't understand you, that doesn't mean there's something wrong with *you*.
Love,
Tamar
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