Posted by Honore on August 4, 2007, at 11:32:21
In reply to Re: Just call me Luna Lovegood » Dinah, posted by OzLand on August 3, 2007, at 22:32:35
I kind of knew it bothered you from the beginning, but I think you also were in touch with the fondness and warmth with which he said it--and were keeping the bad feelings at a distance.
You mentioned-- something like "but it doesn't bother me that he said it"-- which usually means that you're keeping away a feeling you already have.
I'm sorry it does make you more anxious-- but you know it's really a good thing-- socially even. It could mean that certain people (with more socially dominant views about life) might take time to see who you are-- but then other people-- who are more different, outside the mainstream and share more of your way of being-- will be drawn to you.
Really-- I know this sounds palliative, but I mean it 100%-- if you weren't weird, that would estrange or make uncomfortable the weird people of the world (of which, of all kinds, there are many)-- You can't be both conventional and weird-- and maybe the conventional people rule the world-- but the weird people are really making it go. Since everyone is one or the other--weird or not-weird-- it's so much nicer to be weird. (IMO, anyway-I'm certainly glad you're you-)
Maybe your T was inapt in his way of saying it-- Maybe he way trying to identify with your own sense of anxiety about being unusual-- so as to be believed about how great you are-- But he probably prides himself on being the sort of person who can appreciate you-- it's like being a fine wine-- not all palates can distinguish it from an ordinary one, which is much easier to acquire.
Talk with him, though-- maybe try to work this through, rather than take a break?-- he's probably a little weird himself-- so he might be forgiven? But mainly, I hope this doesn't disrupt all the good feelings that you've been having recently. (You've been having them, haven't you?)
Honore
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