Posted by TherapyGirl on July 23, 2007, at 18:38:15
In reply to Oooops forgot TG, posted by muffled on July 23, 2007, at 1:02:53
> **Hmmmm, I think this makes my T look bad, cuz what I was looking for when I first went to her is DIFF from what I looking for now.
Ahhh -- this might be the crux of the matter. But I still think somehow you should share the list with her of what you need now and see how she responds. Because she's been a good T for you in the past and because I know how hard it is to build trust, etc.
I could add.
>
> Good at unconditional acceptance. YES
> Someone I feel comfortable with. YES
> Someone who will be patient with me. YES
> Someone to teach me to cope. YES
> Someone who makes me feel better bout myself and humanity. YES
> Someone who would bend over backwards to try and help me. YES
> Etc etc.
> So she IS good at many things, and they have helped me. But I think if I am to progress, that maybe I need a diff approach now. God, I SO wish it could be OK with her, I want to try.....but I wonder if I should :-(You ultimately have to make this decision on your own, but I tend to think you should try. You've invested a lot in this relationship, as has your T. It may be that she can't give you what you're needing now. But I think you should give her a chance. Just my opinion, though. I'll certainly understand completely if you make a different decision.
> Guess I can at least somehow get up the gumption to talk to her bout it. Try and actually talk some.
YES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I really respect the work you're doing, Muffled, and I know how hard this is.
Keep on taking care of yourself, okay? I'm proud to call you my friend.
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