Posted by DAisym on July 17, 2007, at 19:02:59
In reply to I think...., posted by Dinah on July 16, 2007, at 17:31:33
I think I've come to terms that I'm not going to get that elsewhere. That's why I'm in favor of forever therapy. It's a very unique relationship, and valuable on its own.
****Yes, I think I might be Ok with that too, except eventually he'll retire. Then what will I do? For sure it is a unique relationship -- but I think it isn't supposed to take up this much space in my life. He tells me it won't always, that the more we work things through, the less intense it will feel. Right now therapy feels like a life line. And I hate feeling this dependent.
I don't know if it's realistic to expect everything in one place. A relationship superstore. Some things I get from my husband, some things from my friends, some things from my husband, and some things can only be supplied by my dogs.
******Agreed. But I barely know how to get anything from anyone - I'm pretty used to giving. I think my children are teaching me to be optimistic again - I used to be the world's biggest Pollyanna...and my friends remind me to laugh. But there is a huge hole and I'm not really sure who or how to feel it.
I'm ok with not getting what I get from my therapist in other places, so long as I can keep getting it from him.
******But like you said, you don't want what I want from your therapist. I always grin though, when I read that you'd kill each other IRL. Do you think he'd drive you nuts?
But I know that's frowned upon.
*****Not as much as it used to be. Think about how most terminations now keep the door open for return or tune-up visits in the future. And many people use therapy to work towards self-actualization, which is a life-long process. And therapists, via supervision and other forms, keep going to therapy their whole lives. So who are they to talk? :)
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