Posted by JoniS on July 6, 2007, at 9:26:57
In reply to two-faced coworkers, posted by peddidle on July 5, 2007, at 13:02:40
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> This is the kind of thing I should probably tell my T about, right? I kind of want to email her, but what would I say?** Yes, email your T or call her or talk in your next session. Say how it made you feel when you read it.
That I took a stupid comment really seriously and got too sensitive about it?
** Don't judge yourself. It wasn't a stupid comment, it hurt you, and rightfully so. You did not get "too sensitive" about it. You are human. Anyone who read that about themself would be hurt.
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> I realize I shouldn't have looked at the conversation, but I did, and I can't change that.** Don't beat yourself up about having looked at it. Everyone has temptations and at some point have been involved in a similar circumstance. The next time you're in this situation you probably wont do it again because nothing good can come from it. But you are right, you did and you can't change that.
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> Am I overreacting?** you are not overreacting.
If it were me, I would not talk to anyone else in the office about it. That would put you in a triangle - which is not a healthy place to be. Work with your T totally on this. You can't change people in the office (or anywhere for that matter) It would do absolutely no good for you to say anything to the one who wrote it. They have problems, obviously.
Good Luck to you and be good to yourself :)
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