Posted by Dinah on June 19, 2007, at 17:17:10
In reply to Re: How do you balance it? » Dinah, posted by muffled on June 19, 2007, at 15:08:05
And I'm glad I got to consider it ahead of time.
He got to tell me that he felt frustrated (and maybe a bit angry because of the frustration) and felt like nothing he said made a difference when I was in a spiral downward.
And I got to tell him what he did at those times that actually was helpful as opposed to what isn't particularly (and I'll spare you a description of what wasn't). I asked him if he wanted me to, and he said yes. Which might serve two purposes, in both getting more helpful responses for me, and in letting him know that he really can help so he won't feel as frustrated.
I guess it gets tiresome for him to have the same thing come up over and over again. I know it gets tiresome for me. And maybe he feels like he shouldn't have to say the same things over and over again - that I should remember them. But the fact is that they are helpful to hear again and again when I need them. In his firmest and most reassuring voice, with a bit of concern and caring laced in if he can manage it.
It turned out all right in the end today, and he'd wanted to see me again tomorrow but he hasn't returned my call to schedule so maybe he changed his mind. It's ok. I'm feeling a bit better. My ENT told me I really was sick and gave me a shot and some pills, so I short term feel sicker because I know I should, but looking ahead feel a bit better because I know I won't always feel this way.
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