Posted by crushedout on May 29, 2007, at 16:40:10
In reply to Re: I ruined her entire month » crushedout, posted by muffled on May 29, 2007, at 13:45:21
> > I wish I knew, muffled. my current T doesn't say stuff. she just listens and asks questions. sometimes i wonder if i need a better T but i'm so happy that i feel safe with her that i just can't bear the thought of leaving.
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> Sigh, I know how you feel crushed, I been thinking that of my T too :-(
> Sucks...
> My T talks and that, but I dunno if she gets some stuff...or mebbe I just trying to protect her too much?
> Anyhow, somehow its not quite working it seems somehow...mine talks, too. it's just that when she does, she rarely seems to say much that's helpful. i often end up just looking at her in a sort of bewildered way and then awkwardly changing the subject because i don't even know what she's trying to say. and i feel sort of sorry for her fumbling.
> > i should just ask her that question tomorrow and see what she says. she usually dodges questions, though. :(
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> Well I'm sorry bout that crushed. What kind of T is she? Like psychodynamic or something? Its kinda weird how she dodges questions? Mebbe you could ask her bout that too?I think she's kind of on the Freudian/analytical side. she's definitely a big believer in being basically a blank slate and trying to keep her own self out of my therapy. which has been important for me. but it's also sometimes frustrating. i'm not sure she would describe her approach that way, though. i should ask her.
i dunno if it's weird how she dodges questions. i think she feels that her opinions don't really belong in my therapy so she tries to put it back on me. other times i think she just doesn't know what to say and kind of chokes. i always feel very uncomfortable for her at those points. but she's very open to criticism and in the past when i've told her stuff that she does that i don't like, she takes it very well (does not get defensive). so i certainly could bring it up with her.
> Good luck to you OK?thank you.
> Hope you can work things out with this T, specially with you feeling safe and all, thats a huge deal to be able to feel safe.i totally agree. it IS a huge deal. i am grateful for it.
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