Posted by twinleaf on May 29, 2007, at 9:54:05
In reply to twinleaf, posted by gazo on May 29, 2007, at 8:23:24
Thanks for inquiiring, Gazo! The new relationship is going well; he's a very different type of person- calmer, more thoughtful, not prone to introducing his own feelings as much, but very caring, also. We are treating what happened to me with the old T as a severe trauma- I think it's the worst one of my adult life- but any thoughts of somehow working it out with the old T just don't seem likely at all. What he said and did were so extreme, hurtful and sudden, that there really isn't anything he can say to undo it; he also followed up that session with two letters- both blaming me for what happened. I think he would be very embarrassed and defensive- probably would not do it in front of a colleague whom he unoubtedly thinks highly of. I don't think there's anything he could say to me, now, that would undo the damage he's done, anyway. My job is to gradually move beyond it, stop hurting so much, and deepen my sense that there is another T for me who will help, and not hurt. That's all slowly happening- I wish it were happening a bit faster, but it IS happening. Thanks for asking!
poster:twinleaf
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