Posted by Honore on May 9, 2007, at 16:26:21
In reply to The Next Installment, posted by Racer on May 9, 2007, at 13:58:33
It's funny, though, how we remember tiny bits and pieces of things, and somehow, even when they're very trivial sounding, they carry tremendous meaning.
I think whatever the boyfriend said, and you felt, was something that had happened many times before and after, and was a repetitive experience that somehow got stored or recalled through the eyeglass of that one quick recollection.
It is a new step to be able to talk so much more freely and without being mired down in the feeling itself-- about such awful old experiences, that are carried with great authority into our lives. It only comes after a lot of work and growth, so it is great!
But I know with myself, I tend to fall back into thinking-- but that was such a minor event-- you much have been exaggerating, making it up-- to think that one little comment about a glass of milk should be so bad. That's why I wanted to say that I'm sure it's not a single comment, but countless comments, and experiences full of unrealistic expectations, and criticisms that must be behind the way it affected you.
I'm so glad you had such a better appointment, and are keeping going in working on such difficult emotions.
poster:Honore
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