Posted by Fallsfall on April 26, 2007, at 20:36:14
In reply to It's there, but what is it?, posted by All Done on April 26, 2007, at 13:04:27
It makes perfect sense to me.
I think Annierose is right that you need to say anything and everything (and nothing) that comes to mind. It is OK if what you talk about doesn't flow, doesn't go together, doesn't make sense. As your therapist hears the different things that are passing through your mind, a pattern might emerge. Or sometimes I find that as I talk about seemingly unrelated things that I happen upon something that does seem important, and then we can talk about that in more depth. Try to feel open and accepting of all of your thoughts. It does sound like there is something that you need to talk about. So let it find it's way to the surface. Don't try to fill the "hour" with entertaining talk. Often in these circumstances it is important for there to be lots of silence so the important topic can percolate up. It may take a couple of sessions to find the topic. Or you may spend the next session doing all of these things and coming up empty - but when you get into your car you will know that you should have spent the session talking about...
I think the key for me is to NOT require myself to make sense. Full sentances are not a requirement, and complete paragraphs are not something you should strive for. As you say something, if you start thinking about something else, then stop what you are saying and start talking about the something else.
It doesn't matter if anyone could follow what you are saying. Either your therapist will find a common thread, or you will figure out what needs to be said.
Good luck. I'll be it is an important topic.
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