Posted by muffled on April 23, 2007, at 22:11:08
In reply to Re: Question re:sex and honesty » muffled, posted by jammerlich on April 23, 2007, at 17:16:45
> Muffly, sex in marriage IS supposed to be about love; and, if you'll take a look at what you've said, it's about love in your relationship too. You continue to do something that scares you and is very disruptive you because you love him. So, the love is definitely there, even if things are far from ideal.
**Sigh, I actuall NOT been doing it for awhile. I have a very patient and kind hubby. I WANT to be able to, somehow anyways.
> I do get what you're saying about it feeling dishonest because you're doing something you don't want to do. I guess that's where intimacy comes into play. I suppose if you aren't both into it and if your partner doesn't really know your mind, then it isn't intimate.
>**Thank you for understanding.
> I don't know what to suggest you do. I know my T would say she's an advocate of talking about things. That we have a better chance of being understood when we do. I'm pretty sure she'd say talk to him. But, I'm also pretty sure I'd be so scared I couln't possibly.
**Thank you again for your honesty :-)
I am working up my courage, cuz its just not fair to hubby.
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> It's a problem I had in my marriage and I NEVER talked to him about it. I just did what I needed to do. And I'm glad I don't have to do it anymore. It's a relief. When I was in the middle of it, I couldn't imagine that I'd ever WANT to do it. > It's also entirely possible (even probable) that I'm completely delusional!!**Yup, you a delight jammer :-)
I too find it hard to imagine I will ever be able to more than just tolerate it. But really, its all I ask for.
Wish me luck eh.
Thank you.
Take care,
Muffled
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